But if he's telling his colleagues Julian's straight and he has this fag brother who has a famous husband...fuck, what does he say about me?! Does he deny we're related?!
Don't say fag, Thomas. And the name of the man who married Adrian is 'Ashley Bigglesby' so they wouldn't know you were related to him.
That being said, I know that wasn't your point at all anyway. Thomas, if Joe really is telling the people he works with that Julian is straight, then he's making a mistake. But he's a good man. And he loves you. Joe will own up to what he's done because that's what good men do. And he will make it clear just how much you mean to him.
Well I was just trying to follow his thought process, you know I wouldn't use the word in a derogatory sense! I'm married to a man! And I sort of forgot about the name thing...
Yeah. You're right. He is a good man. I just feel...I don't know. Joe was my 'father' for a lot of years and if he's saying that about Julian, I'm feeling the disapproval in stead and it sucks.
I couldn't possibly imagine that, Thomas. There is absolutely nothing about you that is deserving of shame. I don't know what Joe is thinking, but I'm sure it's not that.
I love you, Thomas. Anyone who could be ashamed of you desperately needs their head examined.
But if he's ashamed of Julian, how could he not be ashamed of me because I'm married to a man. I'm not gay. Though closed-minded people don't much see the difference. And if they don't, what if he doesn't.
Joe has always been a friend to me, even a brother, and he's most certainly always been that to you. I just find it hard to believe that it wouldn't have come up before now if he really felt this way. I feel like there must be another influence at work here. As Peter said, Joe does love you. I'm sure of it. We just need to find out what his problem is.
I feel like I am ten years old again and Joe's all angry because I took his money. Which was on accident, but he didn't believe me (I thought someone had dropped it, I really did) and he was so disappointed in me and...it's just horrible.
I'm so sorry you're feeling that way, Thomas. But you're not the one to be disappointed in this time. You've done nothing wrong. I absolutely understand where you're coming from, though. There's little worse than feeling marginalised by your own family. I can imagine it's even worse when it comes so unexpectedly.
You're not the one anyone ought to be ashamed of. I don't want to make any great leaps of judgement before I hear Joe's side, but I will say this: it had better be a damn good one.
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Date: 2009-01-20 12:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-01-20 12:47 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-01-20 12:50 pm (UTC)That being said, I know that wasn't your point at all anyway. Thomas, if Joe really is telling the people he works with that Julian is straight, then he's making a mistake. But he's a good man. And he loves you. Joe will own up to what he's done because that's what good men do. And he will make it clear just how much you mean to him.
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Date: 2009-01-20 12:51 pm (UTC)Yeah. You're right. He is a good man. I just feel...I don't know. Joe was my 'father' for a lot of years and if he's saying that about Julian, I'm feeling the disapproval in stead and it sucks.
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Date: 2009-01-20 12:53 pm (UTC)Thomas, this will clear up in a few days. It always does. I'm not saying what he did was okay. But things will right.
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Date: 2009-01-21 09:45 am (UTC)I love you, Thomas. Anyone who could be ashamed of you desperately needs their head examined.
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Date: 2009-01-21 09:57 am (UTC)Spectre, I need him to love me.
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Date: 2009-01-21 11:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-01-21 11:21 am (UTC)I feel like I am ten years old again and Joe's all angry because I took his money. Which was on accident, but he didn't believe me (I thought someone had dropped it, I really did) and he was so disappointed in me and...it's just horrible.
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Date: 2009-01-21 12:15 pm (UTC)I'm very secure in your love for me, Thomas. But thank you again for making sure. I always appreciate that very deeply. And I love you too.
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